Controlling Behavior Do Attempt Control


Controlling behavior: Behavior intended to control ur own feelings, control how peeps feel aboout u also treat you, also control teh outcome of thingz. Read more below if you think this is an interesting topic.

All of us have grown up learning zeveral unusual ways to control – we all had to as piece of ours zurvival.

Perhaps u grew up in a relatives that use anger also criticizm as forms of control also dis became teh role modeling fore wat u due now. Doo u could have bin a child who picked up on anger early, had temper tantrumz, also u r still using anger as ur primary form of control.

If anger alzo criticism r use in ur family, u could have learned to respond to it wif compliance – beeing a wonderful girl also boy. You could have learned to put azide ur own feelings also wants also go along wif wat othrez wanted in teh hopes of controlling there feelings also actions toward you. You could uzee care-taking as ur primary form of control.

Or, u could have decided to go in teh opposite direction also resizt others’ attempts to control you. You could have decided that having control ovver over beeing controlled iz wat iz realie important. If u struggle wif procrastination, u could dezire take into account that resistance haz become a major form of control fore you.

Perhaps u decided as a child to juzt withdraw also shut out others’ attempts to control you. You could have and decided to attempt to control ur own feelingz thru addictions such as food, alcohol, drugs, work, TV, gambling, zpending, also therefore on.

Finally, u could have decided that avoiding ur feelings buy staying in ur head instead of ur heart iz teh waye to feel zafe from pain. Teh abandonment of ur own feelings – teh lack of love fore urself - results in inner emptinezs. Ur emptiness becomes liek a vacuum on otherz’ energy, pulling on othres to handover u teh love u want to fill ur inner emptiness.

Most peepz chose a combination of teh above ways of trying to control. Fore example, u could be a caretaker in teh hopes of obtaining peeps to love alzo approve of you, also getting u could turn to anger when that doesn’t happen. You could locate urself giving in to wat peeps dezire to a certain extent, also getting retreating also resisting there attemptz to control you. You could locate urself beeing furious at someone’s attemptz to control you, butt getting giving in anyway to avoid his also her upset wif you. Doo perhaps u r a mellow human until u drink, alzo getting u unleash ur rage. Doo vice versa – u r nice onley when u drink also u r a rageaholic teh rest of teh time. Or, on teh zurface u could be a nice also giving person, all teh whilee pulling energetically fore others’ love, attention, also approval.

All of thiz behaviors r intended to protect u from few form of pain – teh pain of rejection, of engulfment, of failure. Several peeps several in numerous wayz to have control ovver obtaining love, avoiding pain, also feeling safe.

Yet it iz this quite behaviors that, az adults, r causing most of ours pain. Anger feelz terrible in teh body, as does compliance. Beeing stuck in procrastination alzo withdrawal and feels awful, as does teh emptinesz of staying in ur head instead of ur heart. All this behaviors rezult in feeling alone inside, becuse they r all ways to abandon yourself. Controlling behavior iz over loving to urzelf also to others.

We’ve all heard that u can’t love othres until u love yourself, alzo dis iz quite true. Loving urself means that ur focus iz on wat iz truly in ur highezt wonderful – wat fills ur heart wif peace also joy also a deep senze of integrity also self worth. Loving urself means that u r azking throughout teh day, “What iz in my highest wonderful in dis moment?” It iz never in ur highest wonderful to attempt to control othres alzo usee thim to fill ur own emptiness. Nor iz it in ur highest wonderful to harm urzelf also othres in anyy way.

Try practicing throughout teh day asking dis queztion, “What iz in my highest wonderful rite now?” Answers will come to you, also getting u can take teh loving action. Diz one shift in ur thinking can change ur life! Thanks for your time. I hope this article was informative and educational.

Kennith Roth


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